Recovery involves hard work, but there is a lot of reward, too. One of the key benefits of recovering from a substance use disorder is renewed relationships. It’s not uncommon for relationships to be strained or damaged in addiction, as it often causes rifts due to broken trust, hurtful behaviors, or emotional neglect. However, as you build your life in recovery, there’s the opportunity to repair and strengthen your relationships and make them stronger than ever.
Reconnecting with loved ones during recovery takes time, patience, and effort. You may not see change right away; you may have to prove to your loved ones that you are trying. The best way to do this is by committing to sobriety and following through on your goals. Let’s cover some of the essential steps you can take to repair relationships while maintaining your own well-being on the road to recovery.
Acknowledge the Hurt
The first step to repairing any broken relationship is to acknowledge the damage that has been done. Whether it was broken promises, emotional distance, or hurtful actions, recognizing your past behaviors helps open the door to honest conversations. Acknowledging the pain you’ve caused shows that you’re taking responsibility for your actions, which is a critical part of rebuilding trust. This isn’t to say that the other person wasn’t in the wrong; but right now you are taking accountability for your part.
Make Amends
Making amends is more than saying “I’m sorry.” It involves taking action to repair the relationship, such as changing your behavior, setting boundaries, or helping to heal the emotional wounds you’ve caused. As you enter this period, avoid making promises you can’t keep. Focus on being consistent and demonstrate your commitment to positive change. If you choose to work the 12 steps, forgiving yourself and others will be something you work on.
Practice Patience
Rebuilding relationships doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time to restore trust, especially if it was broken in the past. Give your loved ones the space they need to heal while showing them that you are working hard in recovery. It’s even possible that your loved ones may feel skeptical or hurt, and that’s okay. Your consistency and dedication will go a long way in showing loved ones that you are genuine.
Communicate Openly and Honestly
Clear and honest communication is key to repairing relationships. As you move through the recovery journey, it’s important to be transparent with your loved ones. Discuss your goals, the steps you’re taking to remain sober and mentally healthy, and how they can support you. At the same time, listen to their concerns without getting defensive.
Set Boundaries
While it’s important to repair relationships, you don’t want to confuse this with becoming a people pleaser. It’s equally important to establish healthy boundaries, particularly with those who might not fully understand your recovery. Your boundaries may include limiting your time with certain people and avoiding situations that could lead to relapse. Remember, boundaries tell others what is acceptable. They are meant to keep you safe.
Attend Family Counseling
Repairing relationships can be emotionally challenging, and sometimes, you need guidance on how to navigate these complex situations. Seeking professional support can be helpful. For instance, family therapy can be helpful in addressing deep-rooted issues caused by substance use or mental health problems. Common topics discussed in family counseling are family dynamics, communication, and conflict resolution.
Take Things One Day at a Time
It takes time to repair relationships in recovery, but it is possible when you acknowledge past damage, make amends, and stay committed to your recovery. Remember, healing is a journey for both you and your loved ones, so take each day as it comes. Ultimately, strong relationships can become an essential part of your support system. To learn more about the outpatient programs at Recovery Cove, contact us today at 484-549-COVE.
